Physical Intimacy Before Marriage – Healthy or Unhealthy?
This article was inspired by a series of happenings in the lives of individuals.Over time, a lot of people have come to identify with the saying “No sex before marriage is not possible”. Well, I’m here to counter that statement. Today, I’ll be expanding my topic beyond sex; I’ll be looking at physical intimacy in general.
PHYSICAL INTIMACY: YES OR NO? – An unhappy couple
Sex was specially designed by God to be enjoyed within the confinements of marriage and that’s why sex outside marriage is rife with a lot of challenges like abortions, unwanted pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases and a host of others. Knowing this, it becomes important that you “keep yourself” for the guy or lady who deserves you and seals their commitment to you with marriage. Now we know that sex outside is a “no-go” area, how about physical intimacy in a relationship? This is also subject to personal opinions but the truth is this: In a relationship, physical intimacy can be healthy or unhealthy depending on how it is employed.
When I talk about “healthy” physical intimacy, I’m referring to holding hands, hugging, cuddling and anything that doesn’t arouse the desire for sex. On the other hand, physical intimacy is “unhealthy” when it involves, intense kissing, touching in your private areas, smooching and every other thing that arouses “sexual desires”. It’s unhealthy not because it doesn’t allow you to bond as a couple (married couples only) but because it creates premises for you to want to have sex or do things that are against the will of God in a relationship.
And so the line has been drawn, unhealthy physical intimacy shouldn’t be encouraged in any relationship. And it’s not enough not to discourage it; you should take steps to ensure that you don’t fall into it consciously or unconsciously. Avoid staying in concealed places alone with your partner, don’t wear clothing that will tempt your partner (ladies especially), have an agreement with your partner that will ensure that both of you are on the same page with respect to your views on “physical intimacy” and most importantly, ask God to help you keep yourself pure.
PHYSICAL INTIMACY: YES OR NO?
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