BEFORE YOU SAY I DO
Marriage is a beautiful thing but it’s quite puzzling that more than half of the people that go into marriage end up separated or divorced. It was never meant to be so…marriage should be forever and if you’re not ready for that then don’t go into marriage. Marriage is not a game that you can start playing and put an end to it when you’re tired; it’s not a house that you can run into and exit through the back door when there’s a fire; Marriage is a lifetime commitment that is for better, for worse.
Today, I’m going to be sharing tips on important things you need to consider before you say “I do”.
Know, understand and love your partner: Just because you’ve been together with your partner for several years doesn’t mean that you know, understand and love him. Before you say “I do”, you must know who you’re dating, understand him/her and genuinely love them. To “know” him/her is to be informed on their likes, dislikes, about them, where they are from, how they grew up, their beliefs, their values etc. To understand your partner is to know what to expect and what not to expect from them, to know how to react and how not to react, etc. To sincerely love your partner is to have intense affection and care towards them even when they don’t deserve it.
Be prepared in all wise: It’s disturbing how a lot of people get married without being prepared for marriage; it’s like going for an examination without studying hard…..your failure will definitely be grand. You shouldn’t say “I do” if you’re not financially, spiritually, emotionally and mentally prepared; you shouldn’t get married if you have to borrow in other to prepare for the wedding; you shouldn’t get married if you’re not in a committed and growing relationship with God; you shouldn’t get married if your emotions are like the raging sea one day and the calm ocean the next day; you shouldn’t get married if you’re not mentally fit to handle the pressures of marriage. Be prepared in all wise before you say “I do”.
Have a dream that you are working towards: One of the many reasons why a lot of people get frustrated in marriage is because they entered marriage without any idea of what they want to achieve in life. Eventually when this dream dawns on them, it becomes difficult to work towards it due to the demands and pressures of marriage and in some cases, they begin to blame marriage and their spouse for an unfulfilled life. Before you say “I do”, you should have a dream, goal or purpose that you are directed by. This goes a long way to influence who you will marry.
Yours truly,
Tope
BEFORE YOU SAY I DO - Mustered Lady Relationship
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