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Me, A Single Mother? No Way!

 

 ME, A SINGLE MOTHER?  NO WAY!

I grew up under a single mother.

I didn’t know who my father was or what he looked like. Whenever I raised the question, my mother would simply brush it away and ignore me. At times we would quarrel for days just because she refused to tell me more about my father. Despite how much she tried to play the role of daddy and mummy, she failed woefully at it.

I can never forget the day every kid was asked to bring their dad to school. Even though my uncle opted to go with me, I couldn’t help feeling bad about the fact that my dad wasn’t there to share that joy with me. Every-time I saw a young girl with her dad, it brought me to tears.

I cried for a father I longed for.

I cried for a father I didn’t know.

I cried for a father I was never going to know.

My pain knew no bounds the day I was raped just because there was no man in the house to defend me when thieves broke into our house and raided it.

There was no man to defend me.

There was no man to comfort me….only another crying woman.

There was no man to ensure the incident never repeated itself.

 

 

I have since made up my mind that becoming a single mother is an option that I will never explore. It’s really simple; I don’t want to be a single mother for the following reasons:

I love my children: The love I have for my unborn children is unconditional. I don’t want to deny them the opportunity of knowing their father. I don’t want them to feel neglected or suffer from lack of fatherly love. I know what it feels like not to have a father I don’t want to subject them to that same pain and mental torture.

I need a man: I need a man that can fend for my children. I need a man that will love my children just the way I do. I need a man that will cater for our family and put them first. I need a man that will defend us at all times and ensure that our family is on the right track. I can’t achieve this as a single mother and no matter how hard I try, it will always be glaringly obvious…I need a man.

The society deserves better: The family is the most basic unit of the society and if there’s problem in the family, it always reflects in the society. Statistics have shown that without stability in the family, there won’t be stability in the society. The society deserves functional families; the society deserves happy homes; the society deserves a family system that will support its growth.

I don’t have anything against single mothers…after all, I grew up under one. However, Me, a single mother? No way!

 

Yours Truly,

Tope

 

 

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